tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2210419032501151000.post4639631687529193540..comments2024-03-12T02:18:16.746-07:00Comments on KEEP CALM AND WAIT ON: Missionary Girlfriend Problems: Q & ACarly Kozakhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12857032585192510499noreply@blogger.comBlogger32125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2210419032501151000.post-76279598531564502882019-09-22T10:02:25.733-07:002019-09-22T10:02:25.733-07:00im not sure if you’re still answering questions on...im not sure if you’re still answering questions on here...but, i have a few questions that i really have wanted to ask someone but i don’t know anyone else in my situation!<br />my boyfriend left on April 16th of this year, so it’s only been 5 months that he has been gone. at first, he was still saying he loved me and missed me and was personal with our relationship. but lately he has stopped being mushy and gushy and it’s hard. i feel like he is so invested in the work that he just doesn’t have time to stop and think about us and focus on those feelings because his mind is in a completely different place. still, it’s hard. i am so in love with him and i very firmly believe that he is “the one.” everyone who i have talked to says that the think that he is just way focused on other stuff that he can’t stop and “be in a relationship.” it’s hard just remembering that and not getting upset that he’s not “the same.” we talk every Monday for a couple of hours and i love it. as time has gone on, he has slowly become less lovey dovey (and i get it). but it’s hard yanno..<br />also, he met a sister missionary in the mtc that became one of his best friends. she recently came home early from her mission and she also talks to him every Monday. she is sooooo pushing boundaries regarding the girl code, but whatever...:/ i think that it’s just because she is sort of mourning her mission as she had to come home and so she’s doing what she can to stay close to that. it’s just hard to step back and not bother him by needing reassurance. he said they are really close friends, but it still just drives me nuts because everything is like oh well what if what if what if what if he likes her and that’s why he’s changed blah blah blah!!! but everyone tells me that that’s not what’s going on and that he loves me. it just hurts and i get jealous. i don’t know how not to..help?:(<br /><br /><br />also, i am getting ready to send the first package im sending to him as a hello and you’re amazing and for Halloween and his birthday. i have no clue what to send and i am really curious what people suggest!!! he is serving in buenos aires argentina.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07508020511982758886noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2210419032501151000.post-80720989207301653882018-08-06T07:48:33.071-07:002018-08-06T07:48:33.071-07:00This was great reading! My boyfriend leaves tomorr...This was great reading! My boyfriend leaves tomorrow to go to Colombia and I have been kind of a wreck but this brought a smile to my face! It was also great to know I wasn’t the only one having a difficult time while everyone else seems enthusiastic about.. I really am happy for him to be leaving but we’ve been best friends for so long and started dating over a year ago and I don’t know how to handle not seeing every day 😅Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13330926815302737097noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2210419032501151000.post-55889300515437129592018-07-26T20:59:23.387-07:002018-07-26T20:59:23.387-07:00I love reading this blog because it helps me know ...I love reading this blog because it helps me know that this is REAL! Every time I tell someone that I'm waiting for my missionary (who still hasn't even left yet) I feel like they look at me as if I'm crazy and I won't last for two years!!! This blog has helped me know that there are other people out there who feel this way too. I love knowing that I'm not alone!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09762261396496187979noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2210419032501151000.post-73519300154930423522018-07-15T13:19:57.685-07:002018-07-15T13:19:57.685-07:00awesome idea! i had never thought of that, and wil...awesome idea! i had never thought of that, and will be sure to have my missionary give me one. He leaves in just under two months but i am moving a six hour drive away in one month to go to college.Emripphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10221754125360996039noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2210419032501151000.post-8263141807578319802017-10-17T06:43:59.373-07:002017-10-17T06:43:59.373-07:00Definitely not alone. My missionary is leaving tod...Definitely not alone. My missionary is leaving today, but he can't talk to me anymore because he just got set apart last night. This has been the hardest week preparing for him to leave. Even though I am so proud of him for what he is doing and how he has gotten there, part of me just wants to make him stay home and hold him. I know he feels the same too. I just continue to have faith that this will get better and easier for both of us, and I will be able to be happy instead of feeling like my heart has been torn out of my chest.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13284689388267143091noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2210419032501151000.post-48451695613011260582017-04-20T08:10:00.326-07:002017-04-20T08:10:00.326-07:00Thank You Carly so much! I've been struggling ...Thank You Carly so much! I've been struggling for the past month and my missionary hasn't even left yet! He's leaving in like 13 days and I cannot help but bawl every time we hangout! we've been best friends for 3 years and been together for 1 year total of knowing each other 4 years. HARDEST TIME OF MY LIFE! I honestly don't know how ill cope but I'm grateful to of found this blog thank you so much!Izzynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2210419032501151000.post-85201751755326967542017-01-14T14:30:30.904-08:002017-01-14T14:30:30.904-08:00Hey Carly, my missionary is serving in brazil, and...Hey Carly, my missionary is serving in brazil, and i will be leaving soon too. We will serve and return the same time due to our birthdays and our luck haha. Any ideas on what i can do during the mission for him?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2210419032501151000.post-75747859550867821472016-12-16T12:38:38.657-08:002016-12-16T12:38:38.657-08:00http://waitingforthatone.weebly.com/ http://waitingforthatone.weebly.com/ jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13111395823428874434noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2210419032501151000.post-45180077626980558462016-10-12T23:38:37.988-07:002016-10-12T23:38:37.988-07:00Hello, I think you should definitely continue writ...Hello, I think you should definitely continue writing to him! Just as girlfriends write to him as his "best friend" and not so much in a mushy romantic way, I think it would be beneficial to do that. Missionaries can always use the extra love and support from people back home! And by keeping in contact with him, it might be easier to grow both your relationship onto something more once he arrives back.<br /><br />And as for the packages, it entirely depends on how close you feel to him. Keep what you send him light and humorous, and that will put a smile on his face. :) It doesn't have to necessarily be romantic, it can be fun and thoughtful.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2210419032501151000.post-10864333128155643162016-10-12T23:25:27.352-07:002016-10-12T23:25:27.352-07:00I asked my missionary for one the night before he ...I asked my missionary for one the night before he left, and it's been the greatest blessing. I am able to cope with his absence more than I previously thought I could. It's amazing how the Lord really is there to help us, He doesn't want us to go through these hard struggles without a little help.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16979602229439186129noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2210419032501151000.post-63074666638653381882016-03-22T20:57:51.288-07:002016-03-22T20:57:51.288-07:00I realize you wrote this awhile ago but this helpe...I realize you wrote this awhile ago but this helped me feel not so alone. I meet my missionary in January of this year and at first I didn't think it would go anywhere but then we started texting all the time and skyping( because he lived three hours awat from me). He became my best friend in a few short weeks. He made me laugh all the time and smile like no one else could. Then he left...... I didn't know I could miss someone so much after a few weeks. I swear I'm driving my friends crazy! So I'm different from a lot of you, we never really dated and we only meet in person a couple of times. That being said I was never his girlfriend ( he did say he loved me before he left but...) so I'm not sure how much of the "girlfriend stuff i should do : like letters and packages...... If you have any thoughts that would be great ! :) lilagirl65https://www.blogger.com/profile/03333866571782745396noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2210419032501151000.post-77206400047717860242015-10-25T21:13:44.491-07:002015-10-25T21:13:44.491-07:00I'm one of those who aren't LDS and techni...I'm one of those who aren't LDS and technically I'm not dating my Elder. He's one of my best friends, but I don't know if i should wait for him. We weren't more than friends but I like him Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2210419032501151000.post-70957467862036355532015-06-19T01:47:47.514-07:002015-06-19T01:47:47.514-07:00I am having an issue as well. I am a recent conver...I am having an issue as well. I am a recent convert and I absolutely love the church and everything about my "new life." Everything has changed for the better! My issue is that i have fallen for the missionary that converted, baptized, and confirmed me into the LDS church. He has said he will be back to visit me when his mission is over and that I have made a huge impact on his life. There are several things that make me feel like he might feel similar feelings towards me, but I am unsure. Also, I know he isn't able to discuss relationships and he is to keep his mind pure which I completely respect and agree with. I in no way intend to tell him how I feel while he is on his mission because I don't want to be disrespectful and i want him to continue to do well and serve the Lord the best he can without getting distracted. I wrote him a letter to read AFTER his mission but I am scared of what his reaction will be and I really wish I knew somehow how he felt towards me for sure, so I can know if I should wait for him or if he doesn't feel the same then to move on. He has one year left and I have no problem waiting for him just because of how strong my feelings are for him and how well we click. I think i just need some advice on what to do so that this next year I don't spend wondering how he feels, but without doing it in a way that goes against his mission rules and his mission in general. I forgot to mention he leaves in five days. I have had a few times already (almost everyday for the past week) where I have had a break down and just started crying. Some days are worse than others though, then there are days where I don't cry at all. I am so confused though because he isn't even gone yet and I am already crying a lot... Please help! :/Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2210419032501151000.post-71673306908753794122015-01-23T04:08:21.326-08:002015-01-23T04:08:21.326-08:00To anonymous:
I definitely think that you should k...To anonymous:<br />I definitely think that you should keep talking to the missionaries and reading the Book of Mormon. I testify that this is a true testament of Christ and is ths word of God. I don't know if you and your boyfriend will end up together but I do know that this restored gospel can bring you incredible, eternal joy. A joy that is hard to comprehend. If you have a true to desire to find out if this is true, you can. Ask the missionaries how and pray about it. Your boyfriend is giving up 2 years of his life to help others learn of Christ and experience this joy. I believe that because your boyfriend loves you he is trying to share this joy with you. Good luck!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2210419032501151000.post-60410225255048760742015-01-17T16:00:50.850-08:002015-01-17T16:00:50.850-08:00^ To anonymous:
I definitely think that you should...^ To anonymous:<br />I definitely think that you should keep talking to the missionaries and reading the Book of Mormon. I testify that this is a true testament of Christ and is ths word of God. I don't know if you and your boyfriend will end up together but I do know that this restored gospel can bring you incredible, eternal joy. A joy that is hard to comprehend. If you have a true to desire to find out if this is true, you can. Ask the missionaries how and pray about it. Your boyfriend is giving up 2 years of his life to help others learn of Christ and experience this joy. I believe that because your boyfriend loves you he is trying to share this joy with you. Good luck!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2210419032501151000.post-41422552562830413532015-01-01T13:11:51.697-08:002015-01-01T13:11:51.697-08:00Hi! Here is my issue: My missionary is leaving in ...Hi! Here is my issue: My missionary is leaving in two weeks and I am not part of the LDS faith. I have gone to church with him a few times and I have done A LOT of research and right now it just doesn't seem like I will ever want to be baptized into the church. I have tried to explain that as much as I love him I would only join the church for myself and not only doing it for somebody else. He is pretty certain that we will be together again in the future, (as much as I want that) but I do not know how to handle this. I will write to him because he is my best friend and will write to him even if things do not work out in the future, I will still write occasionally. Should I just keep talking to the missionaries and reading the Book of Mormon or should I give him up?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2210419032501151000.post-37040657823850160092014-11-28T21:21:04.232-08:002014-11-28T21:21:04.232-08:00Missing my missionary, being a second generation o...Missing my missionary, being a second generation on his side is hard.....<br />even thou i see him one time per month, txt everyday, i miss my manAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2210419032501151000.post-41689936280824111972014-08-10T18:12:22.069-07:002014-08-10T18:12:22.069-07:00I loved this SO much. My missionary is currently i...I loved this SO much. My missionary is currently in Provo and I am only a few hours away. I miss him every day but this makes it all better!! Thank you!!<br /><br />P.S. Congrats on your engagement!!! (:Miss Sara (:noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2210419032501151000.post-46725131512703499202014-07-13T01:22:14.527-07:002014-07-13T01:22:14.527-07:00My missionary hasn't even left yet and I'm...My missionary hasn't even left yet and I'm already bawling every time I think about not being able to see him. Today for some reason was especially hard. I am utterly and completely in love with this boy and can't imagine life without him. Reading this blog and knowing I'm not alone really calmed me down and helped me a bunch and I just wanted to say thankyou. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2210419032501151000.post-54598376777799300262014-07-07T11:23:10.409-07:002014-07-07T11:23:10.409-07:00Seriously this has helped so much! My elder left a...Seriously this has helped so much! My elder left a week ago and it has been so hard but your blog is so uplifting! Thankyou so much:)Maddienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2210419032501151000.post-50257159447804263912014-06-20T20:49:49.148-07:002014-06-20T20:49:49.148-07:00Well this is the best thing I've ever read. My...Well this is the best thing I've ever read. My missionary left on Wednesday, and if anything, I would advise anyone to ask him to give you a priesthood blessing before he goes. It's so amazing and such a sweet experience you two can have together. Peyton https://www.blogger.com/profile/17436626889892085814noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2210419032501151000.post-63591992976673229982014-06-10T13:12:07.124-07:002014-06-10T13:12:07.124-07:00Hi...
My missionary left today, and its already ha...Hi...<br />My missionary left today, and its already hard. There are so many things i wish i had done for him or given him before he left, and i feel so stupid that i forgot to do the simple things like asking for his email address, and giving him mine to remember. I am so worried that because of that mistake, he won't be able to contact me, and there is nothing i can do about it.Kohane12https://www.blogger.com/profile/03285247415009380815noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2210419032501151000.post-27783884689619922312014-03-30T16:47:30.084-07:002014-03-30T16:47:30.084-07:00My missionary has 5 months left and i couldn't...My missionary has 5 months left and i couldn't be more excited...and nervous. I havent heard from him in 2 months. Everyone tells me that hes serving the lord and I shouldnt be selfish, but its soo hard. What do you suggest and should I be worried because he hasnt written in so long? Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2210419032501151000.post-56978084690154071932013-11-28T21:29:21.145-08:002013-11-28T21:29:21.145-08:00My missionary left a month ago. Hardest. month. e...My missionary left a month ago. Hardest. month. ever. And I'm emotionally torn when I get his letters/emails! I'm so happy to hear from him and know how he's doing, but I miss him even more! Two years without his hugs and silly personality is going to be tough. But it's alright, because I'm so proud of him and wouldn't want him to be anywhere else(: Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2210419032501151000.post-58310257359023122402013-11-20T23:46:29.749-08:002013-11-20T23:46:29.749-08:00Ahhhhh this is amazing! My missionary only left on...Ahhhhh this is amazing! My missionary only left on Monday and I thought I was overreacting because everyone around me seemed to be so happy and I was so upset! Im so glad I found this page!!! wew I feel a lot better! haha thanks for the great advice!!jazznoreply@blogger.com